For those who couldn’t make it to Primetime last night, we watched the first session of his series on Song of Solomon. Last night’s topic was attraction, from Song of Solomon 1:2-7.
Tommy talked about some really thought-provoking things and we had some great discussion afterwards.
Some things to ponder -
What are your non-negotiables in terms of a mate? Do you have an ideal person, and you won’t settle for anything lower? Are those traits that you are looking for character-based or based on physical things? Setting character standards helps clarify things when judging a mate (so you don’t get stuck thinking, “well, he’s not the most trustworthy person, but he sure has great eyes/hair/personality”)
What traits do you have to offer to a mate? If you were to write a personal, relationship resume for yourself, what would you include? Would you include the desirable aspects of your character? What are they?
In that same vein, a man (or woman) who does not exhibit good character while single (or dating) can’t be expected to exhibit good character when he is married. Tommy Nelson said something to the effect of (someone please update with the actual quote) “sin in the dark is always ugly.”
Please bring up other questions or comments from last night, even if you weren’t there.
In terms of non-negotiables, the guys actually asked a more directed question, specifically “what are some issues that you cannot have an argument about”, in that we simply have to see eye to eye on. One such example was about abortion, finances, etc.
you have to get to know a girl’s personality, but i think if a guy doesn’t think the girl is cute, then there really is no shot for any potential relationship beyond just ‘good friends.’ i also believe as long as the person you wanna marry or date makes you feel valued and loved, then it’s all good in my opinion
I’m really excited about this series. I thought the point about someone not exhibiting good character while dating being an indication that they will have the same problems when married was important. It seems rather obvious, but I think we tend to group some sins such as pre-marital sex as only pertaining to dating, but it’s really all about obedience.